Ever since I read Louise Hay’s Book, You Can Heal Your Life, I have been saying that applying the Law of Attraction to yourself should be the first thing anyone learns about the Law of Attraction. Louise asks the tough questions like what thoughts did you bring to adulthood from your childhood? Who told you these things? Do those thoughts still serve you? You must first love yourself. You are beautiful. You are loving. You are a spiritual being on a human journey.
If anyone has told you otherwise, turn that thought around and create an affirmation that does serve you. I look in the mirror and see a beautiful, confident person. #Affirmation The next step can happen when you are in a group where you must shed the shyness. Look around the event for a person that looks uncomfortable. Find the person that you know exactly how they feel. Approach that person and say hello. What you have just done for them is make that person feel like they belong while at the same time making yourself feel like you belong. You have attracted exactly what you intended to attract. By making it your goal to make someone feel more comfortable, you have attracted that and you feel more comfortable too.
I used to think that small talk was a waste of time because it did not actually help us learn anything new. I have since learned that small talk has a purpose. How is the weather? Where are you from? What do you do? Why are you attending? These can all lead to a conversation where things of value are discussed. Another strategy you can use when meeting someone new is to look at the person. In this Sherlock Holmes video game I played, he would start at the top of a person and notice things as you move the cursor down the person.
For example, if you are talking to a woman and her eye brows do not match her hair, tell her that her hair looks nice. She might then tell you about all the work she put into dyeing it. Notice a necklace with a cross or other spiritual symbol, you might tell them that you like the symbol. Notice a wedding ring, ask how long they have been married. They might tell you a story about their spouse. The person that you just made feel more comfortable will remember it was you that made them feel more comfortable. You have made a long lasting connection.